Updated: Jan 27
We understand how exciting it is to adopt a new family member and know you can’t wait to do all the fun activities you’ve been longing to do with a canine companion. You’ll get there!
However, taking it slow for the first few months will solidify your relationship and give you the best path to happiness and success.
What is decompression? Decompression is an important period of time after a transition (from shelter to foster, foster to home, transport to home etc.) where a dog needs to relax in a calm environment and learn about his/her new environment and family members slowly and thoughtfully. The length of time this takes varies for each dog, so you will need to listen to what they are telling you by their behavior.
Closely following this decompression and integration guide and giving your dog plenty of time and space to adjust to their new life is an essential part of ensuring that your new pup is a perfect match for your family.
Before You Bring Home Your New Dog
Prepare Your Home
Prior to bringing home your new dog, it’s important that you mentally prepare for the first few weeks of transition when your dog is getting used to a new environment and learning the rules of your home. You can start this by physically preparing your home to nurture your dog’s mental and physical well-being.
• Inside safety: Make sure all electrical cords are safely tucked away and that there are no magazines, books, or small tempting knickknacks or children’s toys that are easily accessible to a curious canine.
• A quiet space: Set up a quiet area or room with a cozy crate that isn’t accessible to other pets or children. This will be a safe space for your new pup to decompress. A bathroom, mud room, spare bedroom, or even a cozy corner in an adult’s bedroom can all make for a fabulous decompression area.
• Separation: Be prepared to keep interactions with other pets limited and supervised as you all get to know each other. Allow your new dog to get to know your house and other family members slowly with you there for support. Aside from a crate, be prepared to provide separation within the house so no one gets overwhelmed. Separation techniques from other pets and children can include closed doors, baby gates, or x-pens depending on your space and needs.
• Outside safety: If you have a fenced yard, check it over again with fresh eyes. Is there anything a dog can jump on top of to boost themself over the fence? Are there any holes where a pooch could slip under? Are there any weak spots that could be exploited? Make sure you carefully and actively supervise all pets in your fenced yard until you are absolutely positive they cannot escape. If you are unsure how your new dog will do in a fenced yard or if you don’t have a fence, we strongly advise you to purchase a long line so that your dog is able to explore and run while still safely under control. (A long line is also an excellent tool for teaching recall!)
• Enrichment items will help your new dog (and other dogs in your household) relax. Consider stocking up on some of the following prior to bringing your pup home:
o Busy Buddy Squirrel Dudes
o Tricky Treat Balls
o Kong Wobblers
o Raw bones
o Bully Sticks
o Puzzle toys
o Snuffle mats
o Lick mats
• High quality dog food. Typically your new adult dog will have been eating Fromm Adult Classic at the rescue if they are not sensitive to chicken. If they do have a dietary restriction, we recommend Fromm Salmon à La Veg®. Puppies will have been eating Fromm Classic Puppy .
• Durable chew toys:
• An appropriately sized crate (ask your adoption coordinator if you aren’t sure which size to get). Check out this link about how to use, where to place, what to put inside your dog’s crate.
• An ID tag with your home address and phone number.
• A 4 and/or 6 ft leash for walks. Doggedly does not advise that our adopters use retractable leashes anywhere but on their own property for quick potty walks.
• Also consider a jogging leash to keep your new pup tethered to you, hands free, for the first few days until they get their routine, boundaries, and potty schedule down.
Create a Management Plan
Adapting to change is always stressful, but even more so for rescue dogs who often come into their new homes having experienced loss and instability. Welcoming a new canine family member and building trust will take time for your existing pet/s too. Giving everyone the time and space they need to settle in will set all of you up for success and the loving relationships you were hoping for.
Creating a plan ahead of time will help everyone decompress and get to know each other safely and slowly so that you don’t experience setbacks. Your plan should include:
• How to keep pets separated for the first three days (physically and visually)
• How to handle introductions to kids
• How to handle introductions to other household pets
• Exercise, potty, and feeding schedules
All human members of your household should agree to the schedule as well as to how you will handle training your new dog. Remember, clear communication and consistency, especially in the beginning, will help all of you make a smooth transition into an integrated pack.
After You Bring Your New Dog Home
The First 3 Days
Separation is Key
During your new pup’s first 3 days at home, it’s imperative to keep their world small and safe, while simultaneously allowing your current pets time to get used to smelling and hearing a new furry family member in their territory. For these reasons we do not advise allowing your new pup to meet your current pets inside the home for 3 full days. We understand that this seems counterintuitive as you want to make sure your new dog is a perfect fit for your family; however, allowing everyone to decompress and acclimate to one another will set you all up for long-term success.
For separating pets during these first 3 days, we like the crate and rotate method: when your new dog is out, your current pets are safely secured in another room, behind a gate, or in a crate and vice versa. Ideally your new dog should not see your current pets until you are ready to properly expose them. While total visual separation might not be possible, at a minimum pets should be kept physically separated during this initial acclimation period. This will help reduce the likelihood of frustration or reactivity.
During this time you want your new dog’s world to be as safe, calm, and predictable as possible. Following these guidelines, as well as the schedule you’ve designed, will help:
• When you go out, unless it’s unavoidable, leave your new dog at home. If you leave your dog in their crate, always remove their collar.
• Do not take car rides unless absolutely necessary.
• Do not take them to crowded places or gatherings.
• Do not take them to dog parks.
• Do not introduce them to strangers or anyone who doesn’t live in the household.
• Do not hug, hold, or even pet them unless they ask you to do so.
Check out this video on how to tell if a dog wants to be petted.
Other things you can do to encourage calm include:
• Using an Adaptil collar or diffuser.
• Leaving a fan running for white noise.
Low Key is the Way to Go
Instead of taking on the world, stick to low-key activities that will help your new dog acclimate while bonding to you. A consistent schedule with lots of rest will do more to help your new dog become part of your family than anything else you can do right now.
• Walk in your yard, around your apartment building, or in the neighborhood just the two of you (no other dogs yet). Ensure that your pup is safely secured with a well-fitted harness, martingale collar, or slip lead to prevent escapes. Allow them to sniff and take them to their potty spot to eliminate prior to bringing them inside. Don’t let your dog into your backyard unsupervised—they may escape or they may get distracted and not fully potty which can result in accidents in the home or crate.
• Once they have gone potty and done a lot of sniffing, bring them inside and place them in their cozy area or in their crate with fresh water and an enrichment item or their food depending on the time of day. You are free to sit in this area with them, feed them treats, read them a book. Just keep things calm.
• Or allow your dog to sniff around in a room or two (remember no other pets at this time) and begin to get used to their new environment. For the first few days they should be sequestered in one room or on leash with you at all times. Allow your dog to explore a new part of your house each day and reward for appropriate behavior.
• Puppies under 6 months will need potty breaks about every 2 hours. Adults dogs can go 4–6 hours between potty breaks.
• During out-of-crate sessions, you can also start work on basic cues such as the The Name Game (with one dog only), Eye Contact, Capturing Calmness, Hand Targeting, Place, Come, and Stay. Keep sessions short and positive with lots of rewards. The goal right now isn’t to win an obedience competition, but to start building your bond.
• Building regular rest times in to your dog's routine will help them process the stress of rehoming and will reduce unwanted behaviors such as mouthing and hyperactivity.
• Puppies need up to 18 hours of sleep per day and adult dogs need 12–16.
• Repeat this sequence of sleep, eat, potty, play/explore, potty, sleep, etc. for three days while observing your dog’s unique needs and challenges as well as joys.
• Remember, this is not the time to introduce new people. Afterall, to your dog you’re still a new person. If you plan to have visitors make sure your new dog is safely tucked away in their safe zone. Similarly don’t allow strangers to pet your dog while you are on walks. Practice saying, “They can’t say hi. They’re training. Thank you!”
Setting Up for Success
These first few days paint the picture for your dog as to how you expect them to live under your roof. During this time they will start to learn what your rules are, so make sure you know what the rules are and apply them consistently. Management is imperative! The easiest way to teach your new dog not to potty in your home is to never allow it to happen in the first place. Similarly, the easiest way to teach your new dog not to chew up your pillows or have zoomies on your sofa is to never allow it to happen. Instead, set your dog up for success by setting the groundwork with patience and consistency.
• Provide appropriate things to chew on
• Reward calm indoor behavior
• Be clear and consistent about your rules and make the consequences predictable
• Never physically punish your dog by hitting, spanking, choking, or “bonking” them
• Don’t allow your new dog to explore the house without supervision while expectations are being established
Introducing Dogs & Children
If you have children in your home you can absolutely allow them to hang out with your new dog during exploration and play sessions. These interactions must be actively supervised by an adult. The following guidelines will help smooth the way to positive and safe relationships between children and your dog:
• Show your dog what you want them to do around children, and don’t allow them to jump on or knock children down. For example, pup must have all four feet on the floor before getting attention.
• Show your children what you want them to do around dogs. Children should be taught how to pet gently in safe places, not to hug or put their face in the dog’s face, and to stay calm. Check out these kid friendly videos for tips on how to safely allow children to pet and interact with dogs.
• Do not allow children to feed your dog treats right away, especially if your dog appears nervous or overly excited. Instead toss treats behind the dog (away from children).
• Do not allow your dog to approach children or children to approach your dog until your dog is calm and able to take cues from the adults.
• If this doesn’t happen right away, it’s okay just to have your dog in the same room as the children. Reward your dog for being calm and checking in with adults. There’s no need for them to physically interact with children just yet.
• Once you are able to get your dog to focus on the adults, you can allow them to say hi to the children.
• Never, under any circumstance, leave children unsupervised around ANY dogs, especially young children.
For additional information check out this article on teaching children to interact with dogs.
After the first three days of stress vacation, you can slowly begin integrating your new dog into life with your other pets if they are ready. Some dogs take longer than others to decompress. If your new pup still seems jumpy, nervous, or extremely excited to see your other dog they may need a bit more time to settle in prior to the introduction. If your prior pets seem nervous or growly at the new dog, also give them more time.